Sometimes, in our home, we have attitude problems. I’m sure you can relate. I’d like to say that this is everyone else’s problem; I always have my attitude in check and I am the perfect example of grace and humility to my children. Maybe the children and my husband are the problem, because that would give me a nice opportunity for a pity party and I’d have someone else to blame for my trouble. However, it would be a big fat lie! In fact, my attitude is the one that needs adjusted more often than any other.
I firmly believe that Mom sets the tone of the household. We have the privilege of blessing our family with the work we do and of spreading our good attitude around like seeds in a garden.
Why do I fail in this area over and over and over again?? Why is it so hard for me to get it together?
I look to scripture to find the answers. I’m drawn to Philippians because so many of the verses I’ve committed to memory are from that book. There are several things I’ve found in my own life that tend to result in a bad attitude, and Philippians seems to instruct me on all of them.
I have to consider, from where is my attitude coming?
Am I resentful about all of the plates I have spinning, all of the tasks that loom so large in my view? Do I speak out of this resentment rather than speaking positive words regarding my work and the privilege of doing it for my family as unto the Lord? The answer is found here:
“Do all things without murmurings and disputings…” Philippians 2:14 KJV
Am I anxious about my future or the outcome of things in my life? I’m admonished to be anxious for nothing here and given the remedy:
“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.” Philippians 4:6 KJV
Am I wrought with inner turmoil in my heart and mind, with a lack of peace and calm in my situation?
“And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:7
What am I thinking about? Where is my thought life? In Proverbs 23:7 we are told that as a man thinks in his heart, so is he and in Luke 6:45 we see that “… for his mouth speaks from the overflow of his heart.” What are we to think about? Because that’s what we talk about. Are the words of my mouth pleasing to the Father? Am I encouraging and edifying with my speech or am I tearing down my own house with my tongue? Do I bless or curse?
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” Philippians 4:8
Does my attitude issue spring from discontent with my situation? Am I comparing my life to others and finding myself wanting?
“Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.” Philippians 4:11
Do I find myself overwhelmed again by the load I carry because I forget that His yoke is easy and His burden is light? Am I trying to carry a load that isn’t mine to carry? Maybe, and I need to leave those be. But the things that ARE mine to carry, I can carry with excellence, through His strength.
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” Philippians 4:13
Am I being selfish and only concerned about my needs, choosing not to place others first because I fear there will be nothing left for me?
“But my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19
He provides me with all that I need: peace, contentment and strength. His mercies are new every morning. I have clear instructions on how to live, how to think, and reassurance that I am not alone, He is right there with me, loving me, providing for me, strengthening me and gently teaching me His ways. I need to rest in this, knowing that He gave me a family and the work that comes with it, but He has not left it all to me. He’s right there with me and I am so thankful that He has been with me all along.